We've all heard it, "Don't worry about it", "You're just stressed out", and "Reduce your stress", as if it will fix all our problems. While stress increases symptoms of chronic illness (even illness in general) for anyone, it is not the cure for everything. In fact, telling someone not to stress increases stress. It is actually like psychological phenomenon, called the Ironic Process Theory, which says that by trying not to think about something you only think about it more. So by forcing yourself to think positive thoughts, for instance, the bad stuff you are suppressing only comes back into mind more intensely.
During a consultation with a new doctor, we discussed my medical history, treatments, and some other things about me. I'm a college student on the pre-medicine track, and to say that academics are stressful is an understatement. Like many people with chronic illnesses, I've heard the conversation about reducing stress countless times. It's kind of like listening to a broken record at this point, which is why this doctor cause me so off guard. He said, "I'd tell you to not stress out, but I know that is just about impossible while studying medicine." My jaw just about dropped. "Therefore, focus on the things you love to more effectively manage that stress," he continued. For me, stress management includes daily exercise, listening to music, adult coloring books, and watching movies. Of course, this strategy is different for everyone.
That is the first time that I've ever had a doctor knowledge that stress is a normal part of human life and that it is about how effectively we manage it rather than trying to eradicate it all together. While there may be some parts of life we can reduce stress in, that shouldn't be the big goal. Developing coping mechanisms and strategies should be key. These mechanisms won't be the same for everyone, so each person has to take the time to decide what works for them.
The stress of life and living with chronic illness isn't going anywhere, but we can be better prepared to deal with those stressors!
I am a 20 year old junior at the college of my dreams. I am studying Emergency Medicine and Communication Rhetoric and minoring in the Administration of Justice and National Preparedness and Emergency Management certificate. At some point, I want to go and get my paramedic certification when my health allows. I have several chronic illnesses and this blog and website serves as a place for me to share my journey fighting CRPS and my other conditions. I hope that this blog can also serve as an outlet for raising awareness for rare diseases. Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoy! Feel free to comment; I'd love to know what you think!